Do I invite her?

So my mother in law has been promising to throw me a baby shower my entire pregnancy. She begged to be able to throw me a shower very early on. Well I’m due in like 2 weeks and she hasn’t done anything. I’ve bought on my own all of our essentials. My mom said she would just throw a shower but I kept putting her off because I didn’t want to upset my mother in law. Well I could literally have this baby any day now and she’s just keeps saying I should throw you a shower. I’m so frustrated! She also keeps asking me what I need and I’ve told her but anything I tell her, she tells me I don’t actually need that. So then I’m like just get whatever you want then.

Anyways I finally told my mom to do just a small shower for my closest friends, because they’re almost as antsy as I am!

Do I invite my mother in law to the last minute party my mom is putting together because my mother in law didn’t come through?

I feel like she let me down, this is our first baby, she acted all excited and I wanted to give her the chance to be involved. We haven’t had much of a relationship over the years and she was literally begging me so I gave her the go ahead and then I feel like she just failed me in so many ways. I don’t even want her there gloating about what an amazing mother in law she is when she did literally nothing. I should have never told her yes but I was naively hoping it would be a turning point for us.

I also should say she throws parties. She says she loves throwing them. She loves hosting and putting stuff together. Shes always doing showers and birthday parties for other people. It’s not like she’s never thrown a party or doesn’t know where to start.

Adding - we’ve talked. I’ve told her I don’t need anything extravagant. I’m not expecting anything huge. I’ve told her I can help, I’ve told her I have friends willing to host if she has too much on her plate. I’ve tried so many things to figure out why she keeps putting me off. My sister in law has offered to help her. I’ve given them names of just a few friends. And all she says is, “I want to do this for you.” And then she’s done literally nothing. My husband has talked to her even. She threw a great big bash for her sisters daughter a few weeks ago. When I told her it was a great party she told me “oh it took nothing to throw this together”. Like she keeps promising and promising and then nothing. She did the same for our wedding too. I should have known. She told me she would pick up our flowers and pay the last half. Day of the wedding she still hadn’t gone. My brother ended up racing away from the venue to pick them up after she showed up without them and he paid for them himself. Everything else about the wedding was paid for by myself and my husband or my parents and we didn’t ask. She offered. I’ve asked, why offer if you’re not going to follow through and she cries that I’m attacking her character.