Today I got into a fight with a guy that I was causally dating in the past. Mid fight he said “ I make more money than both of your parents”.

This guy is a shitty musician who sells drugs on the side, he looks unclean and he certainly is. the reason why I stopped seeing him was because of how dirty him and his apartment were. Like it genuinely smelled bad and there were stains etc everywhere and there was poop stains in the toilet at all times with a lot of pubic hair everywhere in the apartment. He is so underweight because of the drugs that one time I thought he left and I was cuddling with a blanked only to find out it was him and not a blanket. I am not joking. This dude used to steal and rob people, he sells drugs and he still does drugs. He smokes weed and cigarettes. Goes out every night to the studio and drinks alcohol and pops Xanax etc. he hasn’t read one book in his life and is a high school drop out.

a while ago I was having a conversation with him about my single immigrant mother. I opened up to him and told him that we were always poor and that my mother even at age of 52 still works 16 hours a day just so she can support us while we work and studying. I have a very strong feeling about my mom and I can’t tolerate other people disrespecting her. Not because she is my mother but because she is a fighter. And fighters deserve respect. My mother was forced to get married the first time when she was 13. She didn’t even finish middle school. My mother was raped and that legally and with the support of her parents. She still managed to get my siblings and I out of Iran and bring us to Germany. All by herself with barley to no money. My mother is the type of person who buys homeless kids winter clothes and not eat well because of it for the rest of the upcoming months. My brother and I are the first ones to actually go to uni thanks to her. We are both studying to because computer engineers.

The fact that I trusted him and told him things I would have never told a soul and in the end the universe showed me why I shouldn’t ever discuss family business with anyone cause eventually they will use it against you.

I can’t believe such a low life actually let himself disrespect my hard working mother. And the reason for that is because I let him too close to me.

I have learned that to never talk about your financial struggles with anyone other than family and your best best best friends.