Hi, so I very recently found out I am pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. Very new. He’s 40. I’m 28. We are very happy. The relationship moved fast. We are besotted by each other. Anyway. I am very clear on my situation. I’m not on contraceptive. I had side effects from Covid that left me unable to carry a pregnancy past 12 weeks. My body struggles. He told me he couldn’t have kids (which he’s now said was an assumption). We had a lot of unprotected sex. Frankly I’m less shocked because two adults, having sex. What do you think will happen.

Anyway. I’ve never had an abortion. I’ve been settled the last 5 years coming to terms with the idea I won’t be able to have any other children. (I have a 9 year old son, he has no children)

I have my own house, a well paying job. I can look after a baby. He has his own place, a job, his own company. We have the means but when I asked him what he would like us to do. He said he’d want to abort. I get it. I really do. I’m just struggling to decide right now. Any decision I make will be on the impression I will do this alone, even though he’s told me he will be there for me. I just know I will regret this, but at the same time feel as though I don’t have a choice.

I’d like to know if anyone else has done this and regretted it or been okay afterwards. How do you even make this decision.

Sorry this was long. Thank you. If I’ve missed details I’ll edit.