I should leave

This will be long and it’s multiple things going on.

But I truly need y’all help. I just want to know, what will you do in these situations? Are you leaving? I’m having a hard time. Maybe I know I should leave and just scared to be alone. Idk.

My man has this “good friend” who I’m not okay with because he told me that she said to him before “I know when someone wants to have sex with me, now, answer me, you want to have sex with me?” And he told her “I wanted to but not anymore” I don’t believe for a second that they didn’t have sex he says they never had sex. Yet she been over his house for hours at time late in the morning like 2am. This is stuff he’s told me. lol, so, idk.

He’s a liar. Been a liar since I met him.

However. Same girl, the issue at hand.

She texts him and calls him at all times of day and night and he says he doesn’t answer, I only know about her calling because she called one night I was over at his house. It was 2am. Like wtf does she need to call you so late if y’all are just friends? It’s just sneaky to me. The whole thing about it is. His phone is off, so as soon as he connected it to MY HOTSPOT that night for us to watch a movie, she calls like 5 mins of us into the movie. He doesn’t answer. Ok cool. She texts him immediately after he didn’t answer “I know you not sleep, you don’t sleep around this time”

I asked him about it then we argued and he started verbally abusing me, calling me all sorts of hoes, prostitutes, whore, my mom and son are going to be disappointed in me, anyway, she recently texted him she said “Can we talk now?” I asked him what is that she wants to talk about “now”, apparently he doesn’t know. I find that hard to believe as well. I asked him to block her cause I don’t understand the significance in having her around if you’re “ignoring” her anyway, right? His reasoning for not blocking her is, this is verbatim “she’s a good friend and if you decide to leave me again she’ll still be here, so no. Not blocking her” sounds like a rebound to me. And this the type of shit that’ll make me leave. Like do he want me to leave. Like what?

Second situation. He recently deleted some messenger messages between him and a girl he used to have sex with and that’s really sneaky to me. She also texted him the other day, we were watching stuff in his phone, her shit pops up and he goes “I thought I blocked this bitch” I’m like who he says her name. First of all. I don’t like that he called her a bitch but be on her dick when we take a little break, (well I don’t like when he call women bitches, period) trying to have sex with her. Second of all, what’s the point of blocking her if you clearly know her number by heart cause it was just a number (not saved) then it said iMessage. He said I just know the first 3 of her number. Lie!!! Like stop! Keeps lying.

Every time I try to leave he flips something on me or he brings up something from years ago. For example I’ll say “you still lying to me, I see” he doesn’t address it and he’ll try to flip it on me, he wants me to be a liar so bad he keeps saying the same thing. He goes “you lied to me! you said you wasn’t talking to no one on our break.” Okay yall, for the record It doesn’t matter if I was or wasn’t talking to someone during our break. It was a break. Single. I didn’t care what he did.

For two I told him I wasn’t talking to anyone, which is true, I also thought he meant “talking talking” you know, as in the talking stage. It’s so funny to me, cause NOW after I catch him in a lie, all of a sudden, he claims he asked was I talking to someone in “any form of talking.”

Listen, my memory isn’t that good and it’s not that bad either. I remember & HE DID NOT specify it, he just asked “You was talking to someone during our break?” To me that sounds like he asking me was I talkingggggg to someone in the way I assumed. It’s obvious too. Anywho, this guy called my phone one day at like 6 pm, we was watching tik tok on my phone, of course I didn’t answer, but like 10 mins goes by and he asks me who it was, I told him “it was El, he’s just an associate, we don’t talk like that.” Mannn listen, He flipped out “I thought you wasn’t talking to no one on our break, etc,etc, you’re a liar” I told him “we barely talk, he’s called me once during our break” then he wants to know “what is it that y’all talk about?” I’m like “what? WE BARELY TALK, he only called once during our break and he was just seeing how I was doing. We talked for 3 mins or less” I showed him the call log of our call. Cause he asked. He asked to see our messages. I said “We don’t text, there aren’t any.” He said that I deleted them. Uhm, I didn’t delete anything. I don’t talk to him like that.

Then I became a liar for not saying I talked to him during our break. This is all so bold because during our break he was talking to people, BUT the first day I came back from the break, we was kissing and stuff and he WILLINGLY told me he wasn’t talking to no one, told me he wasn’t on nothing sexual like that (mind you, I didn’t even ask him, he volunteered this info and after he told me that, that’s when he asked me have I talked to anyone during our break) anyway, turns out HE LIED, 🤥 (eh surprise, not surprised) I seen it with my own eyes, took the picture with my phone. He was clearly on that sexual stuff, messaging his ex (from 6 years ago) telling her to come over so he can fuck her like she know he can fuck her. She was responding. Even said she would but she was busy and they can make time. I personally don’t care about the messages cause we wasn’t together but it raises a red flag that him and his ex is friendly like that. But honey, he doing all this towards me when in actuality he lied. He’s the guilty one. Smh. I feel so stupid for keep going back and believing things at times. Nothing is different.

How do you be done with someone when they make you feel bad for not wanting to deal with the bs? Do I need therapy? 😔 cause I feel so stuckkkk. I’m not in love with him anymore. I have love for him but I’m mentally done.

He will go and talk about me on Facebook, saying I left him to mess with other dudes, calling me a hoe, whore, bitch, etc. Saying he want to die now cause I left, that he want to crash out. Also, Like I said before, flipping it on me like I’m the reason. When I leave he make other pages and numbers to contact me. I just. Feel stuck AGAIN. WHAT WOULD YOU DO?