Cheated on

Okay ladies.. I need brutally honest advice/opinions!

So my husband and I have been together since 8th grade.. total of 9years and have been married almost 4.

About a year ago he started hanging out with a guy from work who is a single Ahole! Since being friends with this guy my husbands behavior COMPLETELY!! Changed. He started drinking heavily, doing cocaine and Vyvance and such. And wanting 3somes.

Husband was not excited that I was pregnant.. he started leaving me home alone every weekend to go to the bars and even on weekdays he had off or even days that he was on Day shift. On November 24th he went out and never came home so I went to the bar to pick him up. Thank god I did because he was FAR too drunk to drive. When I walked in the bar… he’s sitting at the table with a couple of guys from work and a girl I was friends with from 7th grade until we lost contact after our wedding in 2020. I think nothing of it. We have our gender reveal on Dec 20th and my “friend” came and helped set up. However throughout the night many people noticed how odd he acted around her. Fast forward to Jan28th the day after our baby shower and we get into a little argument and he starts driving like a literal crazy person purposely slamming on breaks knowing it could hurt the baby. Well he turns his location off and says we should be single!? He was the. Telling me he just needs time and space.. come to find out he went to her house the following day while I was at work and he was supposed to be home sleeping. By the following Friday he had a bag packed and said he was going to his friends for the weekend. I said okay and didn’t hear from him all weekend. Sunday rolls around and he says he’s going to work and I try to be a good wife and bring him lunch. He never even showed up. Caught him at her house!!! Ofc he denied sleeping with her but told me he wasn’t leaving. The next day he came home and packed a bag and said “don’t bother looking for me you know where I’m staying” and he proceeded to live with her for about 10 weeks!! Her, her female roommate and random in and out guys that stay there too! He told me he wasn’t happy and when I got pregnant it got worse. And he in fact never intended for me to get pregnant?!?

He told me to move my stuff out so when I did. I took the couch. My clothes and the baby’s stuff. I also took 4k cash that he took from his 401k that he was planning to use to get a new motorcycle!

He didn’t mind that I took mine and baby’s stuff but was FURIOUS over the couch and money. So much so the he pulled a gun on himself to get the money back.

He has since then told me that we could work things out then he flip flops and says the divorce would make him happy because of me taking the couch and money and for the fact that he went to jail over pulling the gun on himself.

He still talks to and takes out my said “friend” and even went and purchased himself a new motorcycle. Meanwhile he has gotten NOTHING for our baby. Only nice to me when he wants sex. Will take her to eat but not me. Ladies. I know I’m being stupid. But please give your input!! He says some of the most degrading things. That I am nothing and have nothing without him. I should’ve appreciated him when we were together. I should’ve had sex with him. I should’ve dressed up (was sick really bad everyday in first trimester only wore pjs and such) couldn’t have sex. I turned him down and made him feel unwanted. And that he couldn’t be with me anymore due to the couch. Money. And jail.

Keep in mind he says that he and my “friend” are JUST FRIENDS! He is very protective over her and her feelings. Always comforts her but leaves me broken. I mean he says some of the most gut wrenching things to me.