What would you do? *husband’s selfish decision*

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EDIT 5/14 in comments ❤️
My husband and I live across the country from our families. Both our families live in the same city and have dying family members. 
My husband is excluding me from a family trip to go see our dying family members. Yup, I’m serious. 
My husbands grandma suddenly broke her hip and her dementia is getting bad and he thinks she’s gonna die any day, while my mother has 5 different cancers, also just broke her hip, and was given 4 months to live almost a year ago so I know she is gonna die any day. But instead of buying plane tickets for the family, he only bought two plane tickets for him and our son and told me the dates of their trip! 
He told me he doesn’t want me to go on this family trip with him specifically because he wants to spend time with his hometown friends as well and thinks I would “ruin and restrict” that. because of my husband selfish need to visit his friends on a “family” vacation for the amount of time he desires, I’m restricted to maybe never seeing my mother again before she dies. 
****For reference:****
*The price to have added me to this trip he’s already paid for when he booked it: $400 (although now it’s too late I got two weeks notice from him and couldn’t get the time off work or a plane ticket) 
*The price to book a separate trip for me and my son to go see my family after they get back from this trip: $2000+ 
So he’s made it damn near impossible for us to afford for me to go see my mom after his trip, and did I mention he’s got A BOYS VACATION TO UNIVERSAL ORLANDO STUDIOS with his friends in August? And that’s of course already had deposits and plane tickets paid for. 
My husband hasn’t always been perfect but he’s definitely been better than this! I feel like I’m spiraling into a black hole of “he doesn’t care about me or my mom, he doesn’t love me that’s why he’s doing this, he’s not worth being married to anymore if this is how it’s gonna be, he doesn’t see how much this hurts me and never will”
Please without bashing, and in all honesty if someone you share a child, house, car and everything with after 8 years, what would you do?

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I would go see my mom no matter what. Even if that means a road trip by myself. You will forever regret not seeing her one last time. As for the husband, he sounds horrible to be honest.

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I would get divorced. Period.

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Sounds like the priority is hanging out with his mates not going to see family. Book a trip for yourself to go do your thing then reevaluate why you are married to this selfish asshole

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I’d be gone when he got back 🤷‍♀️ he sounds like a selfish asshole

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I would tell him you’re going to see your mom. It’s both of your money and he doesn’t get to go on a vacation but prevent you from seeing your family. Ask him which credit card you should put it on, and if he objects, pick one yourself. Don’t take no for an answer. 
You get treated only as badly as you allow.
My mom died unexpectedly in August and it was the most painful, difficult thing I have ever gone through. My husband was my rock. I can’t imagine what it would have been like going through such a tremendous loss without his support. 
If I were you, I’d totally feel unloved and like he didn’t care about me. Communicate with him and tell him how you feel.

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Fuck that! I'd book my own trip, money be damned, and go. I'd also have divorce paper served the momen he got back from the trip while I was gone. I don't have a great relationship with my mom by any means, but no one would stop me from seeing my dying mother. He sounds like he's up to no good.

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EDIT 5/14: Happy Ending(: 
I took yours guys advice and I bought a plane ticket for myself for two days later without him knowing prior, I told him that it hurt me that I wasn’t invited, and that I was seriously considering divorce when I got back, and I was coming on this trip wether he liked it or not, he told me he was sorry he excluded me and didn’t realize how much pain it caused me, and now I’m here traveling in my home state enjoying a vacation with my son and husband. He is glad that I’m here and we are enjoying the time together while going all over the state visiting family with our son. 
The best part was him having to take a two year old thru a 12 hour red eye flight with two layovers 😂😂 he said he’s never realized how much I do and how much he needed me more than that moment. 
He really was just having a “man” moment and being a selfish asshole for the first time in 8 years. I told him the next time he does this, I’ll be filing for divorce. He definitely understood. Thank you everyone for your advice that it was MY time to be selfish and to make my own future how I want it and not wonder “what if” 
❤️💙

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You know he's one thousand percent going to meet up with someone and cheat on you right? Girl, borrow money from family or friends, go to loan place. GO SEE YOUR MOM! And divorce this loser.

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I would sit down with him and lay down the law. I would ask him to explain to me why him hanging out with his buddies is more important than you seeing your dying mother. Insist he explain the reasoning and hopefully he will see how absurd hes being. If hes still insistent, I would suggest separating if he cares that little about you.

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Sounds like he doesn’t want you around for other reasons. He sounds like he’s up to nothing good. I’d divorce his ass. Life & memories you’ll never get back, you need to be spending that w your mother. He wouldn’t be able to stop me from going.

What would you do? husband’s selfish decision

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