There are not a lot of fish in the sea

Vent—-

People always say it’s ok because there’s “plenty of fish in the sea” sadly and annoyingly I have not encountered a man that is as good as my ex (in the beginning). Obviously we broke up for a reason but he wasn’t a horrible bf & for the majority of our relationship he was great. A provider financially, emotionally & mentally.

Now I do not have a problem meeting new guys, but I get bored fast especially by those men that can not hold a decent conversation or be consistent. It feels like people can not focus on getting to know one person at a time. Also when I set my boundaries such as not wanting to hookup, or hangout at night, etc guys fall back (which is expected, but it sucks). After being single for 2 years I started dating. One guy was great at first but it was all love bombing & after 3 months he completely changed (I never knew about the 3 month rule before until then) & recently I was talking to some guy for 2 months but it’s very clear to me that he has other people that he’s entertaining & while he says he wants to take it slow and build a friendship first I think he’s just weighing out his options (mainly because he goes missing some nights until the next morning). I hate dating, I hate getting to know people, I hate the lack of effort some guys put in, I hate that men expect us to settle. It’s just a frustrating time to date, and very rare are those men that are worth the time.

I’ve noticed the more self aware I’ve become the harder it is to date because I’m not naive and falling for every little thing a men says. I require action. 😭