My bf and I have known each other for almost two years but dating for 7 months now. We've had so many ups and downs since I moved an hour away. I moved back in with my parents so save money for now and my new job is closer here. We only see each other maybe 1-2 times a month so far. I haven't told my family about him as I'm hesitant that they won't be as accepting of him since he doesn't have a job or go to school.

We told each other we'd work on our own goals as we are apart. Since moving away Ive been going back to school while still working full time as a nurse. Trying to save as much money as I can. Meanwhile he's still looking for a job. He's hoping on this one job but hasn't heard back, it's been two months. His family is very dependent on him. They only have one car. He's the main one that drives them to work, appointments, etc. I kind of get overwhelmed about the idea he's not working towards a goal for himself. He's 27. Maybe he feels content with living with his parents and doing what he does? Who am I to force him towards something else? When I try to talk about it with him he just says he's still waiting and looking and hasn't heard back from anything. He hasn't been working an actual job in a few years and didn't go to school. I try to suggest some jobs or encourage him to go to a community college.

I just feel overwhelmed about the future as it feels like I'm going to be the main provider if we end up living together etc. sometimes we argue about it, we forget about it, then it ends up coming back up again. I have love for him but sometimes I'm thinking maybe it's not enough if I'm not willing or open to being the only provider in the future. He checks most of my boxes in a partner. This no job thing is really important to me. 🫤 maybe I am not being understanding enough as a partner and that finding work in our 20s is actually hard?