Marriage struggles

My husband and I of 8 years have been having issues for awhile. We both don’t believe in marriage counseling. And we’ve reached out to family for support but it did end up getting kinda messy. Maybe we shouldn’t have involved family. Anyways, we’ve both said very hurtful things to each other recently and my husband says that we need to take time apart for a long time and see where it goes. I suggested we both heal on our own but still be supportive parents and partners and date each other again. He seems to have his mind on us taking a break and then seeing where it goes. I respect his space but something tells me he doesn’t want this anymore. His body language is different.