Red flags flying

Is it a red flag?

Don’t yell at me because I truly don’t know if it’s a red flag or not.

My boyfriend plays a game on his phone for a long time everyday I’m talking hours. Sometimes 6 hours or longer. Obviously he isn’t talking to or spending time with us, me and his son.

I’m kinda in shock right now. Anyways, I asked to see this chat because he told me he wrote in it about our child being diagnosed with autism and I had no clue he talked to random women on there because he doesn’t like me chatting it up with dudes on my phone. And I don’t because well, respect.

So he told me he said that in the chat and said some woman replied and said whatever she said and not sure what he said. Well then I asked to see the chat so he got real defensive and said he can’t show me because of boundaries. I never even go on his phone, I don’t understand if it’s innocent regarding our child of course I’d like to see but he won’t show me. He’s actually giving me the silent treatment as if that’s any better. To be honest I really don’t understand this and I’m shocked just because if I’m doing something innocent, boundaries or not I would show just because I’m not doing shit wrong. That’s my mind set and maybe I’m crazy for it. Who knows but he won’t tell me nothing about this game.

He just spends so much time on games and tbh he’s been a bit abusive to me lately. And I’ve left once but he tells me shit I wanna hear and all that. I don’t know how to leave and stay gone because I have to communicate to him about our child and how do I do that without getting sucked back in. He will call my phone and say “bring our son home” or “parental abuse”

Okay. Idk. Being a parent with this person is really ruining my mental health. He thinks I’m crazy but I’m on the highest doses of my medication which I don’t even think I need but he makes me believe it. How can I go no contact when I have a child with this person. And trust me; he’s hid random girls and people from me that I found out about. He doesn’t want to pay me child support. He wants me to stay like a dog and be his bitch. Which I just cannot mentally maintain. He convinces me when I leave to come back. He’s super nice, sends me money, calls me sweet names and everything. I’m not sure who the actual crazy person truly is.

Also when I leave he tells me I’m ruining our child. Well I’m not going to let my child watch me be treated like absolute dog shit, not going to happen.

He’s an abusive, narcissistic person who I have to somehow get out of my life. It’s so hard having a kid with someone like this.