Am I going crazy?!? Am I really the bad guy here?

Question

My husband is an alcoholic and we are preparing to separate. 
But please tell me if I am in the wrong. 
Recently his “high functioning” alcoholism is no longer becoming functional. He hit a deer with my car while drunk driving, a month later he drove his truck into a ditch while drunk driving (no police with there. He was able to get away with it all). He forgot to pick up kids from daycare one evening because he was passed out drunk at the house ($240 fine from daycare). And just recently I came home from work and my kids were left alone in the living room because my husband was passed out drunk in another room. Due to him being passed out my youngest sat in a poopy diaper for a long enough time to get a horrible diaper rash which slightly blistered but is now peeling and healing.  
So please, am I in the wrong for leaving him? Am I wrong for no longer letting him pick up the kids from daycare? 
Because I have turned to two friends about this and both take his side. Telling me I am being too harsh, he is lacking respect from me so I need to start showing my appreciation. One even said “he is a great dad and a great man. We all have our flaws” 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 
Am I living in a twilight zone or am I really being too dramatic wanting to leave him for these things?

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If he doesn’t seek for help, you HAVE to leave him. Because he is a danger to himself and others. He shouldn’t be driving your kids or be left alone with them.

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Your friends are dickheads and your husband is an irresponsible addict. The kids clearly aren’t safe and you don’t need to deal with his shit anymore, leave and be happy.

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You’re wrong for not leaving sooner

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I grew up in a household with a father that sounds exactly like your husband. Leave. Leave now. My mother was miserable for years and basically had to raise my sister and I as an only parent. Is did absolutely no good for us, or my mom to be in a house with someone like that. It isn’t fair to you or your kids. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but you need to get out before it gets worse. He will only continue to drag you down with him if he doesn’t immediately change

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You & the kids should’ve left the day you posted this!! Seriously, you’re completely in the RIGHT for leaving his sorry ass! The man needs serious help!! 🚩

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Your husband is a danger to himself, you, your children, and the general public. Yes, you absolutely need to leave him. He needs to seek help immediately before he puts someone and/or himself in a body bag.

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No, I’d never put up with that. Not in a million years. Protect your kids and yourself.

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Your friends response is crazy! You are right for leaving him. Your children are not safe with him. Write down everything and have proof from the daycare so you have that info for the courts (assuming you want to get full legal custody). My husband is an alcoholic too. But he knows there is a few rules. NO DRUNK DRIVING or i leave immediately. If he gets so drunk he is being stupid he must listen when i cut him off (no getting pass out drunk drunk). And no drinking 2 days in a row. This was our compromise because he cant give it up completely (not yet anyway). If he was willing to work with you to be better then i would say try that first but from this post i dont think he is willing.

Am I going crazy?!? Am I really the bad guy here?

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