Am I expecting too much? Or are we just not aligned.

I have recently started seeing my best friend of the past 9 years romantically. Prior to this our friendship has always been platonic. It was him who admitted to being in love with me a couple of years ago but timing was all wrong. We’ve only been seeing each other romantically for 2 months so still early days.

He asked to take me on an official date a couple of weeks ago, which is now tomorrow.

In that time I ask he please get an STD/STI test and he has left it right until the last minute (today) and that’s if he actually is doing it. He admitted his last one was over 12 months ago, and being one of his best friends I know he has had multiple sexual partners in that time.

We had planned to have the house to ourselves tonight (I have young kids) who are sleeping over their grandparents. He knew this so I’m annoyed he didn’t bother to test. He said he is happy to wait and doesn’t want to rush sex anyway… but like wtf?

His communication has also dropped off and the past couple of days I’ve barely heard from him and only at the end of the day. I know he has been busy but also it takes two seconds to message good morning, I’ll be busy today but will message you when I’m free…

I did pull him up on this and he agreed and apologised and did message me this morning.

But what has pushed me over the edge is when I went to confirm details for tomorrow, he wasn’t expecting to grab dinner together.. despite picking me up

At 7.. and he also hasn’t booked tickets for the event tomorrow… being a Saturday and opening night I’m going to assume he won’t even be able to get them now anyway.

I just feel this is a poor effort from someone who is apparently “in love” with me 😒

I don’t know how to address this with him as my last relationship was with a narcissist and I know I am overly sensitive and still working on healing my self, but to me this doesn’t seem acceptable.