My husband told me that he wants to basically have his cake and eat it too. He told me that he wanted to open the marriage, but only for him. He said he wants to be able to see other women, but don’t want me to see other men. He says he’s willing to take care of all the bills, including my car note and hair and nails maintenance and that all my money that I go to work for I can just spend it on myself and our twin daughter’s.

He said that he knows what he is asking for is selfish, but he would rather ask me to open the marriage than to cheat. He expressed strongly that I will be taken care of. He expressed to me that he has desires that won’t go away and has been eating away at him. He says he loves me and he wants to have his family by his side but he also wants to experience seeing other people. I’m honestly crushed and heart broken and honestly don’t know what to do. A part of me is telling myself, well me and the girls will live a good life easy life if I stay. But if I leave or tell him he can’t see other people, I feel like life will become hard and be struggle for me and babies. He’s the only guy I ever been with. Been with him since I was 17. I feel like I’m having a panic attack just thinking about him touching someone else. Our relationship has always been a little rocky, but I just assume it was growing pains. I wish this wasn’t happening to me.