My father is 68 years old. He has made so many bad choices in his life to get him where he is now. He was physically and emotionally abusive to my mother and my sister and I growing up. The three of us has distance ourselves from him, but we keep in contact on rare occasions. For about a year, he has been texting me that he loves me every day. Which is very strange considering he literally has not tried to talk to me in years. I am 47 years old. The last time he bothered to contact me for any reason was when I had my daughter 10 years ago. He came to visit me in the hospital and then I never heard from him again. So this texting I love you out of the blue is very strange. I think I even posted about this when it started happening. I was confused and thinking maybe he wanted something from me that he wasn't saying. I think my intuition on that was correct. Today he called me and told me the meter on his house got struck by lightning and he needs $10,000 to get it fixed. I don't even know if this is a true story. He said he's just going to try to move instead. Mind you, this man has not worked a job for the last 20 years or longer. He used to be a very hard worker and owned his own business. He gave that up and never worked after that again. He absolutely refuses to get a normal job of any type. The house he is living in is one that he "bought" a long time ago, but didn't continue paying the mortgage and now he lives there illegally. He's basically a squatter. He's been living there like that for God knows how long. How the bank is continuing to let it happen, I have no idea. Also a couple of winters ago, the pipes burst in the house and so he doesn't even have running water. He got insurance money for that and never bothered to fix it. Years ago, he put the electricity bill for the house in my sister's name and racked the bill up so high and never paid it. My sister had to go through so much to get her credit back on track because of that. He says he has a couple of working outlets because it's only certain breakers that don't work. So anyway, he didn't actually ask me for $10,000, he just told me what was going on and I think he was trying to see if I would offer the money. I do not have $10,000. I do not have a place for him to stay either. Even if I did, knowing how he is abusive, I would not be able to let him stay here anyway. I'm not really looking for advice about this. His problems are his own and I cannot fix them. Just needing to vent about this insanity. I can't believe this is real life. He is mentally ill and refuses to get any type of help. I am not sure what his diagnosis would be, but I know there should be one. He does not think there's anything wrong with him. He is on Social Security for income. Mind you, he is very able-bodied. He is an obsessive health nut who has worked out for a minimum of two hours every single day of his life and is built like a brick shit house. If he wanted to work, he definitely could do just about anything. It's just so frustrating that he cannot take care of himself. Wish I had the money to just take care of the situation. But I do not. I just don't understand how a person gets away with being so incredibly irresponsible for most of their lives. And then think people are going be able to to bail you out. I feel really bad for him, and absolutely hate to see him living this way, but there is literally nothing that I can do for him. It's hard enough out here being a single mom raising a kid on my own. I can't take care of my dad too.