Hey yall soo listen,,, my husband has told me he wants a relationship with me like one he has with a sibling or best friend. Not in all of the ways but in regards to our friendship. Some examples are… he wants to argue about things but not communicate about them or fix them just ignore it and act like nothing happened after like you would with a sibling. He wants to do annoying stuff like Gleek on my face, pour cold water from a bottle cap on me, keep touching me after I’ve said not too, or hold his finger or object with in a close distance/ or on me after I’ve told him not to so he can say I’m not touching you the remote is. Stuff like that. Tonight after he has came back from work and I’ve taken care of the baby and made sure everyone was bathed and fed before I finally sat down to eat he starts falling asleep to all the shows. I’m further ahead than he is on “young Sheldon” and all of my other shows they are shows we watch together. So I changed it to the show I like and the episode I’m on. He woke up and got irritated that I’m watching the show I want that’s ahead of him and starts going back and forth in a whisper about how I need to change it and it’s not fair. But he was sleep and is falling asleep. The baby is sleeping in the middle of us and she starts waking up because of the whisper/ going back and forth. Which is the last thing I need because this is finally my me time. I already told him I’m watching what I want because he’s sleep but he keeps drilling to get his way like he usually does. So finally I whisper shout no I’m watching what I want. Also when he has done that I’m not touching you thing I smacked him in the chest and another time I swatted his hand away in frustration. He is an only child. I’m the youngest of 5. And the only girl. If I treat him like my brother I’m going to fight him for doing all this annoying stuff because that’s what my siblings and I did and I feel incredibly frustrated. Tonight he went to sleep on the couch and said when he gets frustrated he’s going to “hit me too and yell like I did” idk how to treat my husband like my brother because my brothers and I went toe to toe for the annoying things he’s doing. Idk what to do and how to act in these situations.

—- first I want to say do yall have siblings? Did yall fight when younger? Well I had 4 older brothers and I’m the only girl. Growing up they tried every wrestling move on me and we annoyed each other to oblivion it would often end in fighting and screaming for mom. She ended it. My husband treats me like I’m his little sister and the more I say stop or am annoyed the more annoying he’s going to get. So on reflex when I get to overwhelmed just like when I was young I would fight. (Now not in the same way because he’s my husband) yes me smacking his chest and swatting his hand away is abuse full stop. I’m not a fighter I don’t abuse my husband this happened but is not happening( still bad though) in fact I’m completely disgusted with it. That’s why this is eating me up because in those situations I feel helpless I do not condone abuse that is why I’m coming to yall for advice on what to do. Usually if I can’t win I just let him do what he wants and take it no matter how upset I am. This is childish. For the people that are giving advice thank you but the people that are just stating what they see can you also give advice? What do you do when you’re backed into a corner and walking away doesn’t work?