My ex (31 years old) and I have a 3 month old. I broke up with him when I was a few months pregnant due to cheating. Since then he’s been dealing with multiple girls. He hasn’t contacted me since my daughter was a month old. Fast forward about 3 weeks ago he started blowing up my phone and even showed up to my house “to see his daughter.” He is inconsistent and hasn’t helped out at all financially (not even a box of diapers has he given me.)

When he showed up he asked me a lot of questions about where my daughter goes to the doctor and what dates does she have appointments, etc. I asked him “why are you asking so much? You’re finally going to come with me to her appointment?” He rowed his eyes at me and didn’t answer. Little backstory, he stood me up a bunch of times during my pregnancy appointments and didn’t even show up when she was in the emergency room at a few weeks old. It was weird.

I know I shouldn’t have lurked but curiosity got the best of me. Turns out about a month ago (the same time he started trying to reach out) he started dating an 18 yr old girl! he met at the bar who has a special needs 1 year old. The baby has Down syndrome and other issues. Meanwhile the mom is going to the bars getting drunk every night and/or spending it over with him without the child. On his 2 days off he goes out with them like a family and has driven the woman to the children’s hospital a couple of times.

I honestly really should have minded my business. That way I would have never found any of this out and would have avoided the hurt I feel for my child. He’s never gone to a single appointment with me at all! But with his new girlfriend he’s a superhero driving her and her child to the child appointments!! Hes taking the baby out to plenty of places meanwhile he has never taken my daughter out anywhere. He’s playing great step father meanwhile his actual blood he treats like trash. The only reason he reached out is because of GUILTTT. A big reason he only came was to take information out of me and make sure we never accidentally see each other while he takes the girl to her child’s appts and I take my baby to her regular check ups.

He refuses to be part of my daughter’s life because I refuse to get back with him (a serial cheater.) My heart hurts for my baby. How could he treat another child better than his own baby? He’s doing things for the mother and child he has never done for us. I was with him for 5 years and he just met this girl!! It’s sad.