I feel like my husband and I are drifting apart

My husband works a lot! He goes in early and gets off super late most days and he works night shift so when I’m up he’s sleeping but as soon as he’s awake he’s getting ready to go right back into work most days and it’s just too much and I’ve explained that to him. It really bothered me recently that on his day off I wanted to do something with us and the kids but he never would agree to going out or make plans with me. He has weekends off and pretty much one whole day he stayed on his game gaming 8 hours or more..that really upset me..I know he needs his downtime but 8 hours and he can’t spare a few hours to do something as a family really upset me. I’ve told him I feel we need more date nights or just time as a husband and wife..I feel he spends most of his time everywhere but home. Just like today he needed new work boots and so we planned to load the kids up and get out the house together after he took a nap..I ended up falling asleep with him also and he ended up getting up, getting ready and leaving without saying a word. It really bothered me as we don’t spend any time as it is and I was actually looking forward to this little time with us together and he knew that. I had sent him a text a day or 2 earlier all about this and us not spending enough time together. I just feel like I’m nagging and begging for his time. And what makes things so much worse he’s had a problem talking to women online and all I can keep thinking about is he’s doing something he shouldn’t. I don’t know I’m feeling so alone in our marriage and I know I’ll nag and things may get a little better and then he will get right back to his old ways. I guess this is just a rant post idk.