(If you don’t understand cultural differences and how they can extremely impact relationships, this might not be the post for you. I am looking for advise on someone who has experienced something similar and can give me guidence)

My ex and I broke up a month ago because of cultural differences. His family wants him to marry and have children with someone from his culture. For 5 years he tried to help them understand the love that we have for each other and that it is real. They still will never approve, they don’t even want me to meet them.

A month ago we had a very long conversation about how he needs to let me go because he doesn’t want to waste any more of my time. He told me that he will always love me but he can no longer hurt me. As much as I didn’t want this, there is nothing I can do.

We went 34 days no contact.

Last night he messaged me if we can meet up. I let him come over, and we had another long conversation. He told me he doesn’t know if he is making the right decision. He told me that if his family approved, then he would marry me today. He told me that the love we have for eachother is so strong. He told me that it’s me and it will always be me and he will love me forever.

We ended up having sex and he bursted into to tears crying after. Saying how sorry he is and how he doesn’t know how to move forward. He told me that his home life got so bad that his mom threatened to kick him out of his house and take his car and all his belongings away. That’s when he had to make the choice to stay with me or leave me. This is the first time he told me this, he would always keep the abuse from home bottled up and would never share with me to protect me and my feelings because he knows that I’ve never felt like I was ever going to be enough for his family. He would always tell me, that I am good enough for him and that’s what matters the most.

My ex is very high class and extremely wealthy. His family had supported him his whole life and that is all he’s ever known. He is currently back in college taking courses to be eligible to apply to a huge tech company that one of his family members work for. He is not able to just get up and leave everything behind if he wants a promised future with his career. His family pays for everything and will stop if he is with me.

Either choice he would have made, he would be losing a huge part of his life.

I am just torn about the whole situation. It was made very clear from the beginning of our relationship that this may happen. It is not something that took me to surprise. True, deep, meaningful love is what kept us together for so long.

I am having such mixed emotions. I am so sad for him and I am so sad for me.

How do I move forward.