We are 11 almost 12 weeks and since finding out, the father has been in and out of the picture. Had a few bleeding scares and he never came to appointments or ER visits. He was more attentive though and wanted to be involved. Around 8 weeks he stopped communicating unless I contacted him first. I’d send any information and ultrasound pics I got. I asked that he doesn’t show up to my personal appointments but is always welcome to ultrasounds. We have another one next week and he hasn’t messaged me once even asking for the address until last night. He said he doesn’t see why he should ask how I’m doing if we’re not together anymore and only ask about the baby. Which he doesn’t even do. What can I do to communicate to him that being involved with the baby includes having a good partnership with me?!

Edit: I completely agree that we don’t need to be besties through this process whatsoever. I forgot to mention this is a high risk pregnancy and we’re seen weekly. When I found out I was pregnant he begged on his hands and knees for an abortion and then switched up a week later insisting on being my support system and being there for every appointment so I didn’t feel alone. As it being our first child we both agreed to be partners in any situation even though our real didn’t work. He would work late and I’d bring him dinners. He would call me every second of every day for a week straight asking what he could do and if I needed anything. When I told him I had my intake appointment it all changed. He said he would be there and wasn’t. He ignored for days then went off on me for not giving updates on the appointment which…nothing happens at those appointments so I didn’t see the need to. He then said he didn’t want to be a big part of the pregnancy but will be taking the child every week after they are born. I asked if he could be a bit more involved with appointments to which he said he will not be going unless he was given two weeks notice and the appointments will need to be made after 4pm due to his schedule. I still try to involve him in any updates I get and 9/10 times he doesn’t answer. He also asked me recently to see when we can take tests to make sure the baby isn’t a retard..He also said when I go into labor his mother whom I’ve never even met will be in the delivery room because he doesn’t need to see blood and guts. I dont expect him to ask how I am on the daily but knowing the circumstances I’d hope for him to at least be as involved as he said he would be. I tried to not cut him down but as I’m being the one cut down I thought I’d give all the background.