Dating a married man

As a divorced person, I don’t see the issue with this as long as they are separated and living apart. Benefit’s are expensive and it doesn’t always make sense to end the contract part of the marriage when the love part is over. He’s ultimately the one benefitting from this (and their children as more of his funds would be going towards medical expenses and not available to him) these types of contract marriages exist. If you disagree with it, vote blue for universal healthcare so that’s taken out of the marriage contract equation.

As long as there is no drama.. ur dating him.. see where it leads.

I mean my husband and I have always said if anything like that ever happened to us we would each make sure the father/mother of our children are taken care of for our children’s sake!

To me it sounds like it is now basically a contract marriage. Most military members will be in a contract marriage for the benefits. With them living separately and what not I wouldn’t see an issue with it.

I don’t think I could personally do it, especially with him referring to her as his “wife” still. However, I don’t think it is the same thing as dating someone who’s married and having an affair with them, especially with them living separately and her acknowledging you, it shows at least he is being honest about the situation so you are not the “other” woman so to speak. That said, there is only so much commitment and future planning he can do with you while he is still married to her. Like, it seems a bit funky to contemplate or discuss the future together when he isn’t really planning to initiate any form of legal divorce from her. Also, objectively, there is a 3rd person in your relationship, because she is still actively supporting him and the future he is having is due to her, so it isn’t really like a “let’s tackle this situation as a duo/team and get through it together” kinda thing. I guess it all depends on how long he could stay legally married without it bothering you. To me, if you want to move on, move all the way on so you can give your full self to the person you are now seeing. You guys are starting your relationship with options not available to you or limits so to speak because his last one hasn’t been completely wrapped up

I’m shocked at the positive comments. There are a lot of stories like this on this app and they NEVER end well. Take off your rose colored glasses and leave him.