So my husband and I have been married for 6 years now, and together for about 7-8 years.

At first our relationship was full of attraction and it was really all good in every way. I didn’t know how I got so lucky.

Once we got married our sex life declined so fast, it was almost always me initiating and there was always some excuse when I would discuss why our relationship was sexless.

I think we do have a good relationship aside from attraction, we are very much life best friends, we have two kids and we have been through so much together. He is a wonderful father, and such a good kind caring man. And I really do love him. He makes me happy and safe.

The ONE thing is this… over time our sex life has become almost zero. We have had sex 2 times since 2022. We are 2024! It’s just so frustrating for me because I don’t understand!

He says it’s because I am not flexible in life, I was very anxious when we traveled across the world and it was the very first time I stepped out of my bubble. But I went to be with him. It was so hard for me. He didn’t see or understand that. He also says it was hard to be with me through PPD with both kids, and just that we have kids so we r tired. Also he’s away all week and back on the weekends so I feel like a single mother and it’s just stressful as it is for me. It’s hard really hard, I don’t have a village to help raise the kids.

I have tried talking to him about it countless of times, he gets defensive and offended. But common it’s so upsetting for me! I feel so unwanted! I gained weight during the child bearing years, he then gave the excuse that I was fat. I lost all the weight now and nothing has changed. He works a very very very very demanding job, over 12 hour days and I get that. He’s over worked and tired. But I mean there should be somewhere some priority for us no?

And those things I went through were hard! Are hard!

I also found him chatting to girls on Instagram, sending heart and fire emojis, messaging some like kinky Instagram shop for some items claiming it’s for his wife but we don’t even have sex?!

I confronted him he said sorry and that it was for me and him but like we don’t even have sex?

It’s just so hurtful, I feel punished and I feel so distant from him. I have turned cold and just out of it. When he does remember to give me a kiss goodnight I just feel hurt I don’t really even react anymore because of the amount of times he forgets to even say goodnight.

Am I crazy to feel upset? I just don’t understand it please do advise me