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I’m sorry. If my partner only called me 2x in 21 days, I would be very turned off. There’s a huge difference between texting and calling and I don’t think it’s insane to expect a little more from your partner. It sounds like this relationship just isn’t gonna work out.
Would you consider this me nitpicking ?
So me and my boyfriend live about an hour from each other and I don’t drive nor do I have a car so the effort to see each other is mostly on him. Since we’re not able to see each other everyday I ask him to at least call me everyday cause if not, all we’re doing is texting. We got into several arguments regarding this and at one point, I let it go to see what he’d do and he ended up only calling twice in the span of 3 weeks. Don’t get me wrong, I have no problem calling him but every time I do, he’s either busy or just doesn’t answer. We had a serious talk about it and I thought everything was good since he let me know he understood how I felt and would do better.
Still..same thing. Last night I asked him to call me as we were texting. He ignored it. Asked again, same thing. I ended up calling him around 1am twice, no answer. He tells me he fell asleep and i always have a problem with something (when this has been our only problem for however long). I KNOW it’s annoying to hear the same thing all the time, but it’s even more frustrating having to complain about the same problem and seeing no change.
Would you think im nitpicking?
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I understand your frustration, but some people really just aren’t into phone calls, I personally prefer texting over calls. Is it possible it’s just not his preference of communication? It might not be personal at all, calls make some people genuinely anxious or just annoyed cause you can’t do anything while on the phone. Have you actually asked him why he doesn’t call? That might be a good conversation to have if you haven’t already.
Calling at 1AM is absurd. Let that guy sleep ! You aren’t making any efforts outside of calling. Just because you don’t drive or have a car doesn’t mean it should be left up to him. Try taking an Uber or asking a friend .
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It honestly doesn’t sound like this relationship is going to work here . You’re putting a lot of expectations on him and he’s not putting in enough effort or too busy but lacking the capacity to inform you of so. I’d recommend talking to him but this isn’t okay on either side
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We were texting at 1am so I decided to call him. I didn’t randomly decide to call him at 1AM for fun. I always offer to uber to him and he doesn’t want me to.
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