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So backstory- at 9w3d I had some spotting and terrible cramps on one side, having a chemical before, I was SO scared. I left work and went to the ER, yes I know ER can’t do anything and isn’t really helpful, I just honestly needed to know baby had a heartbeat and was measuring the same. Everything was well and baby was okay, ER dr told me it was a subcronic hemorrhage. Told me to follow up with my OB of course. When I went to see my OB at my 10w5d appointment, it was my first dating ultrasound. I had paid for a private ultrasound at 7w but this was the first one conducted by medical professionals. Well at this appointment the ultrasound tech had seen a “small pocket” of blood about my cervix (wasn’t there at my 7w ultrasound) said it looked like it was implantation bleeding, asked me if I had been bleeding any, I said yes that a week ago I had a subcronic hemorrhage. She said not to be alarmed if I start spotting again, either light pink or some brown. I was then reassured in my mind after seeing my baby and hearing that to not be scared if I see a bit more blood since I knew there was a small bit over my cervix.

Here’s my question- since Sunday I’ve been getting painful cramps. Not like period cramps thankfully. But the same exact cramps I had that made me want to go to the ER. It was so bad Sunday night I told myself I would call my OB that next morning. My partner talked me down and tried to reassure me that I haven’t had anymore bleeding and surely cramping was normal with a growing uterus. I’ve had the same cramps very much on and off the past 3 days….

Would it be too much to call my OB asking if it’s any concern or if I should come in?

Mind you, I have another appointment with the private ultrasound in 2 days (Friday), I just REALLY don’t want to go and them not to find a heartbeat, seeing as they’re not professionals they wouldn’t be able to tell me anything except to call my OB.

I feel like if I call my dr will just say that the cramping is normal and to call or come in if there is red or dark pink bleeding. I don’t want to be a nuisance but at the same time I’m so scared.

Reason for my fear- My mom’s first pregnancy was with twins, she started having terrible cramps at 12w so she went to her OB. They told her there was no longer a heartbeat and baby was measuring behind, then explained to her how one twin absorbed the other one and had stopped growing at 10 weeks. My mom didn’t have any bleeding just cramps, they told her to expect heavy bleeding and to pass her baby in the size of a clot. Soon afterwards she bled and lost her babies. I understand I’m not my mom and her body is not my body, yet knowing it’s possible and having it told to me at this vulnerable stage, leaves me petrified of what if I lose my baby and don’t know.

I’m now 12 weeks exactly today and I’m just wondering, do I call my OB? I haven’t had any bleeding (I had light brown spotting about 3 days after my appointment) but I’ve had terrible cramps that will sometimes leave me leaning over trying to breathe. These were the same cramps that put me into the ER and I just want to be cautious.

I don’t want to be negligent but I also don’t want to be a nuisance for something that isn’t much to stress over!