If you don’t know the story long story short my husband and sister had an emotional affair in early 2022 after the birth of my first son and I found out confronted husband swore it would stop he told her I found out they continued and I found out again it never stopped pregnant with second child early 2023 … from moment my husband came into my life sister had extreme jealousy and wanted my husband. She has not been in my life two almost three years I’ve tried everything to make it work with my husband of 5 years…. We have a one year old and a two year old. Tried to get him to do marriage counseling etc. he has gotten worse and worse. Verbally emotionally mentally abusive and blames me that I cause arguments etc when I just react to him hurting me with yelling for no reason, criticizing everything I do. He has way too many narcissistic traits at this point that he never had, just found out on work trips he drinks again (has had dui in past) I told him long ago that was deal breaker. He is looking up my sister in his phone still for pictures of her etc. and he goes to strip clubs when away. Just found this all out the other day. I’m done. He gaslights me and makes me feel like it’s in my head it’s not a big deal etc. long story short I’m leaving him. I am divorcing him. I have two babies. He refuses to go to therapy he thinks he has no issues when he has bad mom issues he has been taking out on me etc. I’ve been betrayed too many times and I am done. I tried hard to make this work for my babies and to have this family. So sad. So now that I have decided to divorce him finally after 2 years and 7 months of me dealing with narcissistic abuse and me being the only one fighting for my marriage, I’m scared he is going to make this hell for me and manipulate things because I am a stay at home mom he makes the money, I do not trust him with babies. Or his awful mother. My two year old runs away from her and doesn’t know her much and he adores my parents . They are off during week and now that I will need a job can watch my babies. Husband mother works all week cannot and if in court they wanted to test how my son reacts to husband mom over my mom and dad it would be proof . Also I don’t trust my husband with my babies alone he is drinking again, he vapes around them even when I tell him stop, he had dui in past multiple… his mother and family don’t even know he is drinking again. He has short temper and anger issues. When sleeping and hears my baby cry he gets annoyed and angry, has AirPods in when with boys he listens to movies on phone when “watching them” feeding them etc. has anyone dealt with narcissistic abuse and divorce with babies ???? I’m scared. I don’t want him to make this hell. He makes the money I don’t. He is charming in front of everyone but me….. will I be believed in court? His terrible mother will also try everything to play dirty even though it wouldn’t be best interest for him to have custody of my babies or even unsupervised visits. Anyone a lawyer or have similar experience??? Help please

The one person here who has heard my story from the start and been so gentle and kind to me has been @mommaof4

Thank you. I’m done bothering you all and this community with this. I’m getting divorced. I’m just scared.