How would you feel if your husband had naked photos on Instagram?

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My husband and I have been together for 7 years and have 4 year old triplets together. I love him and we have always had a beautiful marriage. We hardly ever fight. However a family member found my husband's old Instagram. This was from when he was 18-23ish. His college years. He had a fuckboy phase in college and would just sleep around in college. On his Instagram he would post photos of himself naked with some covering his dick. Basically thurst traps. I admit I lost my temper and screamed at my husband about it and told him to take those down. He said he he can't get into that Instagram anymore because he lost the password and had used his school email to make it that he doesn't have access to and he hasn't been in that email since 2015. He just made a new insta. I don't think I'm crazy for not wanting my husbands nudes on the Internet. It just makes me feel gross and embarrassed. I didn't know what I wanted but I yelled at him because I was so upset and he told me to stop yelling at him because I'm bringing up his anxiety. He ended up leaving the house and coming back to ignore me. I feel bad. I understand I took things a bit far but would anyone else be upset by this

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You said he hasnt been able to access that email since 2015. Thats almost 10 years. Youve been together for 7 years, so all this happened before you were even together, possible before you even met (you didnt say in your post if you already knew him or not). What someone does BEFORE you is none of your business. He doesnt have access to that account so he can mot delete it. Screaming at him over something that he no longer has any control over and has clearly put behind him and moved on from is horrible on your part. What you should have done was offered to help him figure out how to get rid of that account after CALMLY expressing how uncomfortable it makes you that those images are out there online. I dont blame him for leaving the house and then ignoring you afterwards. You need to apologise and work as a team to get past it.

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I wouldn't be upset. Id be trying to help find a way to delete it though.

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No, I wouldn’t be upset. It was in the past, before you. You handled this very immaturely. Yelling and screaming solves nothing.

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Yelling at him for something he did before you and can’t access?? YIKES.

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This all happened before you were even together. You seriously overreacted. He said he doesn’t have access to the account, so there’s nothing for him to do

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Oh my , you’re embarrassed?!!? Did you ever stop to think how he feels about it?! He can’t get into that account to delete them but you’re worried about yourself? Yelling at him for something  he did before you were together or knew each other is gross . You handled that all wrong!!

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The account can be deleted by writing or reporting

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Everyone has history and you don’t get to decide on it. It just is what it is. If he is bothered by the old account then I’d help him find a way to take it down but getting worked up over some poor decisions he made 10yrs ago when you weren’t even together is wild.

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I would try not to get too worked up about it. it’s from a long time ago and there’s nothing he can do about it

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