My husband is hyper-critical regarding our sex life. His sex drive is high...mine isnt. We have 4 kids ages 5 and under I care for all day and i breastfeed. I get tired easily. I try though, and I have been trying to give him more. He bought me some lingerie. I decided to give it a go. Everything was great. However, he wanted to try some new things. He got out a chair. A hard, wooden, kitchen chair. The first position he had me in was great until my leg cramped up. So then he had me kneeling on this chair. I was trying to be into it, but I was in so much pain. The chair was killing my knees, and this position was just painful in my cervix or something too. Ha. So i ask to move to the bed. I suggest a position I really like. We do that for two seconds. Then he has me lay flat on my stomach with my legs together, stiff as a board, and gets pissed that he can't find the "right hole". He was no longer turned on, told me i was awkward and bland and called off sex for the night. I tried to explain.to him, it's not me being boring...it is logistics. The chair is super hard. Get a softer chair, or add some padding. And you can't find the hole when someone is laying like that, it's impossible. Haha. Like start on all fours and then lower my body down or something. Sigh. This happens a lot and I am tired of being made to feel insufficient.