I know my MIL does not like me because I introduced my husband to drugs. I used to be his boss at a restaurant and I was struggling with addiction. I would invite my coworkers over and try to do drugs with them. It was awful. I should have been fired. That's how I got him addicted to drugs. We dated for a while when we both were on drugs. Broke up and got back together way later when we had both been sober. His mom does not like me. She's nice to me but I can tell. A while ago my husband made this tasteless joke. I think he has undiagnosed autism because he is awful with social cues. We both talked about doing a phlebotomy program and doing it and he said "Wouldn't be the first time you put a needle in me." His mom got mad and left. She's been more quiet towards me ever since and I finally spoke to her and told her I know she hates me and I just want her to be honest. She said I'm her son's wife and he's happy and that all that matters. I told her I know she blames me for his addiction. She said he was an adult and made his choice. I kept pushing and pushing her to be honest and she goes "Fine. I'll be honest. I don't like you. I hate that he married. His dad died. He asked you, his boss for time off to grieve and go to the funeral and you invite him over to your house when you're much older (I'm older by 4 years, he was 24, i was 28) and then offered him drugs. You knew he was vulnerable after losing his dad and because you hated your own life you had to drag my son into it. He has a future and you ruined it. And idk if I will ever forgive you for that. You weren't a girl he found on tinder you were his fucking boss! But.... It's in the past and I will be civil as long as my son is happy that's what matter." That's the gist

I wanted to cry. I know I asked for the truth but honestly. Still really hurt. I knew she didn't like me and now I dont know if i can ever get her to.