I just started college and I want to try exploring new looks and styles. I have very long hair and I don’t dress in any particular way, usually whatever’s comfortable (sweatshirts, band tees or plain darker colored tees, jeans or cargo pants), very little accessories, and only simple makeup on special occasions as I’m very self conscious and don’t like attention. Now that I’m in college and surrounded by new people I’ve been contemplating cutting my hair super short, maybe dying, and dressing in more alternative styles as I love them. I feel like a lot of the people I know have had a glow up and I’ve had a glow down, so I want to do something to make myself feel better about myself.

Here’s the issue- my boyfriend has only really known me as I am (we are a long distance couple and only get to see each other for a few weeks each year). He’s seen me ig dressed up a few times and I know he loves me and thinks I’m pretty, but he isn’t a fan of women with short hair, unnaturally colored hair, and idk how much he’d like the way I’d like to dress. (He’s from the south so has some more “traditional” views than I do). I know he wouldn’t love me less or break up with me for any of that but I’m worried he’d be less physically attracted to me or something and it makes me really hesitant to do any of that.