So long story short my husband owns a business and his excuse for being on the phone and not talking to me throughout the day is because he’s working…

It seems like he never talks to me. I get mad (because he’s always gone) I message him and he doesn’t take me seriously. He sends me stupid memes and voice messages of him meowing( Billy illish). When he KNOWS I’m upset.

We never talk about our problems because ‘we don’t have problems’ in his eyes

I try to have our kids in bed at 10 pm. My husband leaves every single night to play basketball with his buddies. And my son cries himself to sleep because he knows daddy is gone.

I told him it bothers me he plays. (Yes he plays— he live streams to FB)

I told him it bothers me and our kids but he doesn’t care. He doesn’t talk to me throughout the day and then at night he is playing basketball and doesn’t get home until 2am.

I am tired of waiting up for him. I don’t think it’s right.

I have to take the kids a bath, I have to get the ready for bed and put them in bed….

He told me it doesn’t matter because he will continue to play basketball.

Am I wrong for being upset?

He doesn’t think he’s in the wrong.. he says he’s a grown man, I’m not his mom. He can do what he wants to do because he doesn’t see any wrong in it. I just don’t feel like I’m married. I feel like I’m living with a kid

Sorry this is all over the place, I’m upset and have a headache from crying

ETA:

He also has a group chat on FB messenger (his cousins and brothers who he plays basketball with) and he voice messages them constantly and listen to them NON stop. He gets mad at me when I tell him that it’s gets annoying. The kids could be talking to him but he has his phone in his face continuously talking with that group chat.

I told him how I felt and he basically called me controlling. I just can’t with him. He literally got here at 1:40 am and he’s wondering why I’m mad…

He doesn’t talk to me. There’s no chemistry…. It seems like I’m a single wife already so idk why I stay

At the point he only cares about what his basketball buddies think and his mom… he doesn’t care that our kids are crying because daddy isn’t there to tuck them in… he said it’s my fault because I won’t let them go with him.

I put an end to it.I WANT structure and boundaries in our home. He lets his ppl walk all over us. I use to give in because I didn’t wanna put up with the fight but no more.