Advice for leaving toxic relationship??

I’ve been involved with this guy for almost 2 years. It’s just been really toxic and messy ever since the beginning basically. He’s controlling, manipulative, and abusive in my opinion. I turn 23 tomorrow and I realize that I want to grow. But I also realize that with people who are abusive and controlling, they don’t want that. He gets mad about my friends, family, how I dress, how I interact with people around me. If I try to date it’s “cheating”. 😐 but then I ALSO notice too that it’s becoming really one sided. I have to double text often, he doesn’t want to do anything and makes me feel like a burden for even asking. I don’t want to live like that anymore.

But the trouble comes in that when I DO try to leave, THEN he decides to start putting in effort 😐 I tried to leave him before and he texted me and spam liked my social media until I talked. Yesterday he told me he “wasn’t in the mood” to be talking to me, so I said “? ok. I’ll leave you alone then” and all of a sudden starts texting me about his night.

Blocking him won’t really help because our lives are too intertwined for it to make a difference. So I’m just going to ghost (which I honestly don’t think will be hard anyways since he doesn’t want to talk lately)