I have a 7 year old son from a previous marriage who I raised on my own, I have a boyfriend of nearly 2 years who now lives with us and works full time. For the last year we’ve discussed more and more the idea of having babies and how we would imagine trying for one soon. My younger sister who we very rarely see drove to visit us very late at night spontaneously and told us she is pregnant, I was overjoyed and cried with happiness.

She was meaning to try next year and decided to try sooner, we told her that we were planning on April next year.

After telling us she’s pregnant me and my boyfriend discussed babies more and decided to try as it just feels right. I told her and she was excited for us and even spoke with me about it quite often.

Suddenly this morning she sends a message longer than my arm in detail stating it’s not an attack but she cannot pretend any more and be fake and be happy about us trying for a baby although the idea was nice at first of us having a baby so close together.

She went on to judge and point out our financial situation told us to save, told me to get a job for a company that respects me more and said it wouldn’t be fair on my boyfriend to be the only one working when the baby is here and stated our house is too small for a newborn and how we would have to start again and should get a bigger place first. We have a 2 bedroom house and most of the time I was raising my son he stayed in my room and there’s enough room for two single beds in there plus is close to his school.

My boyfriend told to ignore what’s been said as it’s not something we have to respond to apart from acknowledging they aren’t supportive of it.

I’m 30 about to be 31 and my boyfriend is 24, I work part time and he works full time.

What has bothered us the most is the fact my younger sister pretended to be supportive and okay only to the around and say she isn’t. This is her first pregnancy and I’ve been supporting her all the way with symptoms and advise on things like what she can and can’t eat etc.

Just to add, my younger sister stopped speaking to me after following bad advise from my older sister not to help me when my OCD got very bad a couple of years ago she took it upon herself not to see or speak to me until I got better which I did with the help of my friends not my family.

What do we do ?????