My bf is perfect, why do I want to break up?

Question

We’ve been together for 4 years, ever since we were teenagers. He’s such a kind person and I care about him so much but I want to break up. ??? He hasn’t given me a reason to but I just want to be single & live my adult life without having to compromise. 
This is super out of character for me and I feel like I’ll regret it which is why I haven’t made any decisions yet. I normally like to think long-term & I know I chose a good man who I could see myself marrying.
But lately I’ve been feeling this urge to just be alone and figure out who I am. I know I’m probably just gonna end up being lonely and sad that I can’t find a partner as good as him. So… what do I do?
I heard that “the grass is greener where you water it” but where do I find the motivation to water it?
How do I chose him again?

Answer

Can you find yourself without leaving him? Start with finding something you can do on your own. I like hiking. A good hike makes me feel like my old self. I used to hike 6+ miles every single day. Now i have 4 little kids so its hard to get the opportunity. But every once in a while i get the chance and its great. Also try therapy. It doesnt have to be hiking for you. But what are you hoping to do without him? You dont need to do everything with your partner. Go do stuff.

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Talk to him. Maybe he feels the same way and if he does don’t feel hurt by it.

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I think you should talk to him about how you’re feeling. Especially since you’ve been together since you were teenagers, it’s okay to want to be single and figure yourself out as an adult. Either way there will probably be a feeling of loss, either you lose the opportunity to be single as a young adult or you regret breaking up with him. You just have to figure out if you want to be single and have those experiences more than you want to be with him.

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Sounds like you’re having FOMO… when I was 23 I had the same feeling and I left him (but he wasn’t perfect) I just wanted to live life and learn who I am. By the time I left had my fun I wasn’t even thinking about him nor wanted him back. I found my now husband of 8 years and he’s honestly 10x better… i definitely did find myself during that time. All I can say is if you stay you’ll regret it later and if you leave you’ll regret it in the beginning…. Either way you’re going to feel some type of way…

My bf is perfect, why do I want to break up?

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