He says I’m too tight…

So my partner and I have been together for about a year and a half now. Things are going pretty great, there’s just one problem. We don’t have sex.

I am more experienced than he is and have quite a high sex drive. He seems to be pretty nonchalant in the sex department and when we try to do it he often says it hurts.

He is uncircumcised, which for me feels great but for him he says I am too tight and it hurts him. I have also caused him to bruise.

We have been told to try lubricants but he also doesn’t seem to be too bothered by us not having sex at all.

I of course use toys here and there to fulfill my needs but I really want this connection with my partner.

What should I do?