To sum things up my mom has always been pretty mean to me and put me down , (sometimes she is nice which gets me because I do love her so much) I left home pretty young because of it , got into a marriage that became abusive. I left my ex husband and my mom told us to come to her house instead of the Women’s Shelter she had extra room and wanted someone to stay with her for awhile, We live in a small town the shelter was full , My son & I were waiting for a space. I thought she changed over the years but she has not. She verbally abuses me every chance she gets about how i’ll never be nothing ,and even defends my ex for abuse when she gets mad with me, tells me to get over it. Im not allowed to leave the house ,or she threatens to call my ex abusive husband. I now have the money to leave, I was blessed with a great job a few months ago (that she tries to make me quit) & been silently planning to move states with my son, until this stopped me in my tracks. She’s been going to the doctor lately , taking different test, worrying that something is wrong, and now i’m worried about leaving her since she is getting older ,and no one else will live with her. I’m not sure what is the best decision, if I will be selfish if I still leave during all of this