Am I the problem??

Hi, so I’m currently in a long-term relationship but I’ve had many traumas with men in the past and I had a long (but shorter) relationship before I met my current boyfriend.

My ex was my first real boyfriend and at the beginning it was great but then he started doing things that would annoy me all the time and I love my current boyfriend but I feel like for the past few months it’s been feeling like that again where one thing he says can make me aggravated.

I know exactly the type of man I want and deserve and I also know the type of life I want to live in general. Often times when I’m thinking, I feel like I’m just better than who I’m with and like I’ve never been with a guy on my level. But I’m not sure if that’s cause I’m choosing the wrong guys or if it’s cause I am just never satisfied.

I don’t think I’m perfect and I know it sounds so vain. But I want the type of love I’ve always dreamed of. I don’t think I should have to bend over backwards to change because if someone says something weird I’m going to call them out on it. But again I’m not sure if it’s a me problem or if it’s my boyfriend.