Am I in the right or my BIL?

Question

So my brother and his husband got a puppy within the last year. He just turned a year old and wild. They try training him but he still is his wild self. He is a pitbull too. I know pitbulls can be super loving and amazing but I’ve also heard they can be more aggressive which is what makes me a bit more nervous
 So I have an irrational fear of dogs. Once I know the dog I love them but certain dogs or unfamiliar dogs make me nervous. My brother and BIL have 2 other dogs. They are older dogs and super sweet I love them! But the wild energy from this one makes me cautious, esp for my kids
I have a 7 month old baby. On Christmas my BIL offered a couple times to hold my baby which I thought was so nice. But when he held her he kept taking her to their dogs for their dogs to see. I know they want babies sometime so I am sure he’s doing that to get their dogs familiar with babies. But I just don’t like that he puts my baby right by their face, even the dogs I know I just feel slightly uneasy. But esp the puppy. I made an excuse that I needed to feed the baby so I took her back.
 He offered to hold the baby again later that day when I was trying to do something and I let him hold her expecting him to stay sitting by me with her but he got up and took baby across the room to his dogs again and the puppy was so excited and starts jumping around while he’s in the ground with the baby and licking the babies hands and face. I told my BIL that I did not like that and it was making me nervous. He got up with her and I took her back
 He also is always encouraging the puppy to go “give kisses” to my 4 year old who I can tell doesn’t feel totally comfortable but she will laugh sometimes and both my mom and I tell my BIL we don’t want want that encouraged on the kids. The dog is like as tall as her and jumps on everyone.
 Again I have an irrational fear of dogs. I know it’s irrational. My husband has told me I’m gonna make my kids afraid of dogs so i try and not to overreact (he was referring to other situations, not this one when he said that). But I don’t think I am here.
 Am I overreacting or is my BIL right?

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Your kid, your rules.
Plus an untrained dog? Hell no!

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My sister is a dog trainer and has helped me to train my dog and one thing is you should not let kids get in a dogs face. It can make them feel uncomfortable or startle them which can lead to biting. It’s important to be able to read a dogs body language, I’m sure there’s videos on YouTube you can watch about signs that they are uncomfortable or stressed which is when you get your kids away

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It’s totally normal to not like dogs. I absolutely hate them and do not want them around me at all. Dog lovers are crazy to me lol and always act like everyone should like dogs. But my sister was bitten by a “family dog that wouldn’t hurt a fly” when she was a baby. So I am very cautious around any animal with my kids.

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I have a dog and also wouldnt be ok with this. I wont let my sister or brother's dogs near my kids' faces. My dog is used to kids hanging all over him. While my brother's dogs and sister's dog are good sweet dogs, theyre not used to my kids or kids in general, who knows if they can get scared or play too rough, and baby's faces are so delicate, it isnt worth the risk to me over the cuteness of getting a dog happy and excited. I also didnt let my own dog lick my newborn's faces because a lot of people dont like that and the baby cant speak up if theyre ok with it or not.

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I consider this an overreaction. But my kids grew up around dogs, my family has dogs, I’ve taught my children how to behave around dogs, we don’t have an irrational fear of them and I don’t have family that would intentionally put my child in harms way. I think it’s easy for someone to roll their eyes at a ‘boundary’ with kids when it’s irrational and there’s no real risk. It’s not like he was dangling your kid over an alligator pit or letting them play in poison ivy.

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Ok so you’re right because it’s your kids you have a right to say what you want for them… on the other hand you don’t want to project your fear on to them… so if they see you uneasy they will be uneasy… also dogs sense who I fearful, uneasy and happy… sometimes the react to those feelings of the person… I would definitely suggesting that your BIL get the puppy neutered

Am I in the right or my BIL?

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