My husband sucked my ear

Long story short (possible trigger warning) I was chocked when I was 7 and I don’t like being held down etc

Also, I’m autistic and don’t like certain sensations but my husband says, “it’s all in your head”

When my husband and I were having sex, he started sucking on my ear. I felt so uncomfortable! I tried getting him off. I was squirming around and screaming. I told my husband before I don’t like that. I told him to get off of me because it lasted about 20 seconds. I told him again and he got mad and he ended sex. He then said, “next time don’t waste my time”

Really? Why should I have to be uncomfortable? It’s not a turn on for me…. 😭😔