Lack of sex.

Over the last 5 years I have noticed my husband‘s sex drive has gone down tremendously and it frustrates me. I have talked to him about it. I brought it up at doctors appointment. He has had labs checked on him to make sure everything is good and they are his testosterone levels are great. They said for 35 years old they tend to see men’s go down, but I don’t know how much longer I can take of no intimacy I’ve also feel like he’s not attracted to me anymore. My love language is touch, so I usually try to hold his hands, but he pulls away if I rub his back it irritates him or even put my hand on his leg when we’re at home on the couch or even out and about it pisses him off he says he’s never met anyone who needs to touch their partner so much but this has been my love language since we got together when we were 13 years old we are 35 years old now. His is nothing. He shows no affectionate towards me. He does not give me a kiss Good night. He does not give me a kiss when he leaves the house. He does nothing. The times we have had sex it just is rushed like less than 5 minutes and he’s done rolling over to go to bed where at this point it feels like he is only being intimate with me when he realizes it’s been a while and he can tell I’m frustrated. I keep track of how much we have sex on the app and last year we had sex 14 times, the year prior to that was 20 times and the year prior to that was 22, so far this year 2025 it has been 1 time I was not in the mood but he was because he was drunk.

I just don’t know what to do or think anymore I think about is he cheating on me because usually this man does not wear any cologne or anything and over the last two or three months now I have noticed he uses a cologne that he’s had for years and said he would probably never wear it because it’s too strong of a smell, but all of a sudden I realize the bottle is almost gone and I thought I smelt it the other morning when I got up after he left for work. 

I brought up marriage counseling and he does not believe in anything like that so he refuses to do anything like that.