My sisters boyfriend is a loser

Why doesn’t she see it?

Dude has 4 kids under 5. He’s 8 years older than she is (he’s 35). Unemployed. Has yet to pay for a single meal out he’s had with my family. Has spent every holiday with us and not his own kids since she introduced us to him on Thanksgiving. Tried to invite himself to the beach vacation this summer where I have already pre-paid for the hotel and transportation. Are his kids going on vacation? No. She tags along and shares a room/bathroom with our mom and mother in law every year, where did she think she was going to put him?

She’s constantly driving him wherever he needs to go. Does he even have a car? I’m guessing no. He’s really into soccer, and she showed up at my house when I wasn’t home (I saw her on the ring camera) when I asked why she was there she said he really wanted to do some kind of soccer drill so she intended to ‘borrow’ my kids soccer balls for him. Like, what? Go buy your own you weirdo.

Add to that, he doesn’t politically align with my family’s values. And she knows how strongly we feel about it, and yet she still brought him around and just kept it quiet for as long as possible.

This guys a loser. The red flags are flying in every direction. Why is she not seeing them?

I love my sister, but I don’t want this idiot around anymore, even if that means she doesn’t come around much either.

To clarify on the politic piece, this is a non-negotiable, we do not interact with people who do not align with us intentionally, our children would not be safe. She is aware of this boundary. And that’s why she hid it.