My mom drinks, should I welcome her to visit?

I’m looking for votes and for advice, please 🙏🏻

Hello all. I’m 36 weeks pregnant. My Mum and I currently live a country apart, 2 days travel.

She drinks, every day, idk if to access every day but a few times a week for sure and always extremely much at any occasion and an occasion to her is being social.

She’ll fly sometimes to see family in Canada and it’s always a meltdown at the airport but then like all things is brushed off as soon as she is sober (unless she’s drinking sometimes and brings it up but that’s rare) like for instance she had a 1.5 hr flight a couple of weeks ago and she was just a mess by the time she hit security to take off never mind how bad it was once she was waiting for her luggage.

Anyway she flew down once before, my home isn’t big so I noticed she had her own wine bottles in her bag (she just drinks red wine and I guess I’ve seen her drink whiskey and beer in a pinch too) and idk how she manages to drink so much on the plane/at the airport etc but she finds a way. She’s too skinny and small (body dysmorphia and IBS) like 85/90lbs so I guess it doesn’t take much.

So like I said I’m 36 weeks, I have a toddler. On March 4th she wants to come visit for a few days, until the 10th. I don’t want anyone here for my birth, I don’t have any family I feel close enough with that could actually come and I like to be with just my husband and daughter for the most part anyway.

I love her with all my heart and want her to feel loved and welcome but she does majorly stress me out (on the surface I seem very calm with her though)

I’m very peaceful, so is our home. My daughter’s life is very calm. My Mum swears lots (the drinking amplifies it) and is quite insecure so it makes her say really negative things that seem out of no where but I know her so it doesn’t shock me, and of course the drinking amplifies that too.

Like last time she visited I was bathing my daughter before bed and she was 1 and I snuck out to get my Mum so she could see how cute she is and she was shocked. “I would never” she mouths to me, look of horror on her face “oh no”“no way” she says a few times just vague expressions of horror finally I’m like in my head “okay get out of here and get away from my daughter what are you even talking about” so I lead her out after like 2 long minutes and she’s just gutted that the bath is so full and has so many bubbles “I get it your luxurious but wow what a waste I would never babies don’t need that blah blah blah”

So to put it plainly I’m someone who is hyper aware and sensitive of the way people talk to and around my daughter and my Mum is so sweet so often and every now and then just like …. Says wild things that confuses my daughter. It’s confusing for her cuz her Nana can be so sweet and also so off at the drop of a hat.

Example were visiting her one afternoon/late morning at her house and my daughter asked for milk (still nursing) and I obliged and my Mum is all “oh no worries I totally get attachment issues” in a “poor you” way I’m like 🥴

And in the same visit had a melt down recounting a story for 15 years ago at my grans funeral between her and her Mum over her Dad (who is also passed away about 12 year’s ago) and she’s always bashing my Gram to me in back handed ways that she “doesn’t mean anything by”

Idk maybe I’m rambling just trying to seek counsel from y’all 🤣 I don’t know what to do, have her visit or no??

I should also add my husband and I don’t drink. I do stop at the store for her to get wine when she is here. (She needs professional help to detox, she wouldn’t be able to just not)