Boundary Setting

I’m currently pregnant with my first (hooray I’ve made 36 weeks!) and have some anxiety about the delivery.

I’ve had a high risk pregnancy due to my disability and due to some health issues, the only way that’s safe for both baby and I is caesarean section under general anaesthetic.

I’ve made peace with this that it’s best for both of us.

What I’m struggling to make peace with is the unknowns of how long will the GA impact me for and impact on baby.

The main reason this is causing anxiety is because my mother and in laws think they should be able to meet the baby asap. Which is great but I’ve made it clear I don’t want visitors UNTIL AFTER I’m out of recovery and have met my child.

They can’t grasp this and are very much in the mindset that I will meet my child as soon as it’s born and I’m selfish for refusing visitors.

My biggest fear is one of my child’s grandparents will know the sex of my child before I do because they believe a room with those 6 (step parents included) is not a huge room full of people and I should be grateful they want to be there, instead of refusing to let my child have a relationship with its grandparents.

They keep arguing that I’ll be there for the birth and I “won’t be the last to meet my child when I wake up, but they have every right to be there immediately”.

And it’s just upsetting me so much right now, because when I come out from the general anaesthetic, I just want my partner and baby with me initially.