My husband is cheating, what should I do??

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My husband and I have been in a relationship for 10years and 5 years officially married and yesterday I found out that  this man has been having an affair with another woman for 5 years, this woman sent me everything..the videos screenshots of their conversations telling her how she’s sweet and their relationship is not going to end etc. He works from upcountry and when he is coming back for his leave he leaves his work place like a day or two before the date he told me, he goes and sleeps with the other woman in hotels and sometimes at her place and then comes home that’s why i never suspected him since he never leaves the house when he is back, this woman even visits him up country more often, she showed me some videos where they they were in a certain hotel upcountry the same hotel he took me in when I visited him upcountry, I’m so frustrated I didn’t eat anything the whole of yesterday upto now and I haven’t told this man about it yet, he is coming back on Wednesday but I don’t even know where to start from🥹 Please advise me, I wouldn’t want to leave this man for sure but all this is driving me crazy.

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I’m sorry he did that to you. You don’t deserve that. My advice is you need to leave. He cheated on you your ENTIRE marriage, and that’s going to be VERY hard to get over. You’ll never be able to trust him so there’s no point in staying. Staying will only show him that you tolerate this and he’ll only continue to cheat because he’ll think/know you’ll never leave. Start contacting divorce lawyers and figuring out a new living situation. I hope things get easier for you! Wishing you the best.

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My advice will always be to leave a cheater. It’s hard, it hurts but it’ll be worth it. The person he is, is not who you married and fell in love with. He is showing you who he truly is, believe him and run. You got this

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Please don’t stay
This isn’t like he was drunk and made a bad choice one time
He’s having a whole other relationship and probably loves that woman too 
Your only option to show respect for yourself is to take that proof to a divorce lawyer.
I’m petty so I also think you should go after him for everything you can get. Having proof that he’s human garbage will work in your favor

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You wouldn’t want to leave the man who has been having an affair basically a double life for the entirety of your marriage? I know stuff like this is hard but I’m a big fan of tough love and would want someone to tell me that that is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. You’re a grown woman respect yourself! Never ever allow someone to treat you the way he has been treating you. I’d accept this now and continue to be with him more than likely he’d do it again. He doesn’t care about you and when you tell him you know he’s only gonna care you found out not that you’re hurt. This is the ultimate betrayal/ disrespect; he told the other woman he basically didn’t care about his marriage and was going to continue to be with her, schemed and planned how to be with her, lied to you, treated you like you were stupid. Stand up for yourself. Protect yourself and leave this woman who has no respect for you. I wish you nothing but happiness and healing 🫶🏽

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I hate this for you. Staying isn’t doing you any good. He’s never going to stop and I’m really sus of this woman coming through after 5 years 🤨
I would just sit him down and show him everything. There’s literally nothing to be said.

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This isnt a one time mistake,he lived a double life your entire marriage. I dont see you could ever trust him after that.

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I'm willing to bet you're beautiful and amazing. Sounds like he was running away from his own problems in yalls relationship. Do not give him another chance. Do what you gotta do to leave. Don't have sex with him, don't even sleep in the same bed as him.

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@GlowGPT please help me with this topic!

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I’m very sorry for you this happend, the way it did. If I understand correctly: you never noticed something was of in your marriage to this man? Before she came around you were convinced you had a good, fulfilling relationship? When he is home/ or you are at his work he is loving, attentive and it still sparks in the bedroom?!  AlthoughI understand completely why everybody else says leave him.. (I”m almost 10years single now after being cheated on numerous times & never want to feel/ be second best again) But I’m gone play the devils advocate for a moment and call the other woman out! She is clearly a serpent that wants your man all for herself. Or did she say she was gone leave him?! Almost sure he did not say to her he was gone leave you either.. Ask yourself why did she do this in the first place?! Why now?! What would she gain out of you 2 divorcing?
Use you’re intuition, if you feel deep inside he loves you and your relationship- this man- your home life is 100% is worth it: please don’t just give it up without a fight! Don’t let somebody else define what you feel is right or is yours. Cry, scream, throw with things to get the pain you feel now, out of your system and then compose yourself: think long and hard, and most importantly feel, wright it down.. you have known him for 10years, use this knowledge!  
When home wine and dine him, seduce him, surprise him like you would have done  10years ago..  and when he is totally at ease/ relaxed you tell him: a really weird thing happend to you.. a woman.. etc. Watch him/ body language/ his eyes very closely. His response will tell you exactly what you need to know.. Don’t forget you already know her side of the truth.. so let him explain, show you his side.
I’m wishing you strength, courage and all the self love -& confidence you need and much luck/ succes in whatever you choose to do! I believe, this community has got your back ;)

My husband is cheating, what should I do??

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