Am I overreacting? Edit

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It hurt my feelings hearing him say I should go as it sounded like he’s relieved and hoping I do this for his benefit to leave him alone. He did say, he’ll go on vacation during the time I’m there with the kids. AND I don’t need this Therapy, it was merely suggested to me as a benefit to use it. I’m more robust and clear headed than my husband is. Actually he should be the one going in there, the issue is he finds the kids a burden a lot of the time
2 Women in the Family suggested to try “mother -child(ren)” therapy. Fathers can do it too. usually are eligible to go after having a burnout or it’s too much. I looked up the details, it usually comes from referral from your Doc. And the place is your choice and it takes 3 weeks. After I saw it’s 3 weeks I said no way, I don’t need that much time. I told this to my husband and he said I should go with the kids and he doesn’t mind being home alone, he said he’ll miss us of course but actually would enjoy it. This hurt me because I can’t imagine going anywhere for that long without him. And it seems like he’s encouraging me to do this so he can be free from us. I was shocked by this, and said it hurts to know how you feel about this and seems to be ver selfish of him. 
Our kids are only 3 and 6 and we’re together for 9 years married 3 years. And I have a mindset that we have made choices in our lives and I stick by them and deal with our responsibilities as a team, together. And him just thinking of himself when times get rough is not comprehendible to me at all! I was so upset, I cried and slept on the couch.

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If two women in your family suggested you do this, then there must be a need for it. It sounds like your husband is being supportive of you doing this. Would you prefer him to get mad and tell you that's too long of a time period and you can't go?

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I’m so confused. It sounds like you have a very supportive husband who is encouraging you to get the help you need.

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Yeah kinda. If you’re having parenting issues serious enough that multiple family members are suggested to do therapy with your children, it sounds like you need it. Nothing here indicates he just wants free time, he might just want you to get the help you (possibly?) need

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I know that you perceived it differently than I would as an outsider, but my thoughts are that he was trying to be supportive. He was not saying it in a way where oh thank goodness I'll be free from the family for three weeks… I think he was trying to say he will be OK if you go. I also don't think it's a crime to be excited about anticipating alone time if that's what it was about. I don't think it's anything personal. ￼

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Do it for yourself and kids. If he cares, he should do so eventually.

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I kinda see what you mean. If youre wanting to go but feel guilty leaving him, then I can see how what he said was meant as supportive. Im not sure what prompted the women in your family to suggest this. But if there are serious issues within your family that it needs this much support and intervention, then he needs to be involved in that process as the husband/father.

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Sounds like you need this therapy. And likely some individual therapy which can be done virtually. 
Your focus is all wrong. Your husband is not being selfish. He was being supportive and honest. He’s allowed to see the positive in his family leaving for 3 weeks. He shouldn’t dwell and mope (like it sounds like you would).

Am I overreacting? Edit

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