My bf’s mother put a restraining order on him and now he’s homeless. HELP!

I’m so stressed and confused. This will be a long post so please bare with me and give me genuine advice.

I don’t know how restraining orders work, I don’t know who to believe, I don’t know what is going on.

For the past few months, my bf has been drinking a lot. He confessed he has a drinking problem and when he tries to cut off alcohol, he becomes ill. We don’t live together so I have not been around when he’s drunk but have heard him drunk over the phone. He gets overly aggressive and violent. It has gotten to a point where my bf kinda hallucinates…at least that’s what it sounds to me. He’s going through so much, I want to sympathize but at the same time it makes me wonder if he’s hiding something from me; something like meth…and I’ll explain into detail. His dad and mom divorced, mom kicked his dad out of the house ( that’s what my bf told me) and the family is destroyed. I don’t know much.

So about 2-3 weeks ago, my bf caused a huge chaos at home. He lives with his mom and 2 younger brothers. I was home watching movies and had my phone charging at the kitchen. I didn’t hear my phone ring and had 5 missed calls and 10 texts. The texts were confusing and he was very agressive with me for not picking up. He was cursing over text. I call back and it went straight to voicemail. I texted him apologizing for the missed calls and explained to him that I had my phone charging in the kitchen. He returns my calls within 5 minutes of sending the text. I pick up and say “hello?” He sounds drunk and goes “whats up what’s up what’s up…” his speech is slurred and sounds so out of it. I’m so confused and I’m asking “what is going on?” He starts screaming that I never pick up the phone and that he could literally be dying and i take forever to respond. I tell him to calm down and the dialogue becomes so agressive with him. He hangs up on me and calls back. At this point I’m so mad but also worried. Like what is going on? His tone is now in panic mode. His voice is no longer agressive and tells me he just came home and his puppy is not home. He goes outside and screams while on the phone with me saying “fuck!!! polar bear (puppy’s name) ran off”

He starts cursing and saying “it was my bitch ass mom. She probably left the door open or purposely let my dog out. I hate that bitch” I told him to relax and call his mom. He did but his mom was not picking up. He was panicking bad and I could hear that he’s punching and throwing things around the house. Hours later, I guess his mom came back home with his two younger brothers and turns out they had the puppy with them.

Not sure what happened but out of no where my bf calls again telling me 9 cops showed up to the house and had him hand cuffed. They threatened to shoot him if he did not cooperate. So what happened that led to his mom calling the cops? He claims his mom is just mad and hates him. But really? What happened ??? Nothing made sense to me!!!

Everything was fine until this morning he got a visit from a sheriff to serve him. He got a restraining order and all his mother’s allegations were on the report that he is a threat! My bf claims everything on there is a lie. He got kicked out of his mother’s home and is now sleeping in his mechanic shop. He face timed me. He bought an inflatable mattress and is sleeping in a customers truck cabin. He has no clothes! He called his father and his father didn’t even take him where he is at. I find it so heart breaking that his father didn’t help him? Also I live miles away and also live with my parents so it’s hard for me too. To be quite honest, with everything going on I am scared to even go get a hotel with him. I offered getting him a room but he declined.

Now for the past months too, he’s been around a lot of friends who do meth. First guy was his shop neighbor. Found out he did meth because they got into a physical fight which till this day I don’t know what that fight was about!! The fight got bad to the point he his 2 front teeth. My bf confessed to me that he was under the influence of meth and he just got physical with him. I’m sorry but something must have happened. Another situation was with a former employee. His employee was running late and wanted to put him on check. He told me his employee does meth and has poor work ethic and wants to help him but he’s letting meth dictate his life. Why is he so surrounded by all this people?

Again, sorry for this long post! I feel like there is something I am missing. I wish I can talk to his mom and hear her out. My bf told me today we should get an apartment asap. His mother told me I should not for my own good but I don’t know why!!!!