My bf keeps telling me Ive changed and think so highly of myself.

This is getting out of control. For the past few months, my bf complains that I think so highly of myself and brings up money in the relationship. I seriously have no clue what he is talking about and I swear that if I wasn’t humble I wouldn’t be posting this. I’m trying to understand why he’s accusing me of this.

So he is a high school dropout and a business owner. He flips cars and resells. He also does transmission work on the side and always mentions he’s “in the blue collar trade” and most guys cannot do his work. I mention this because it is relevant to my whole post not because I see him below me because he’s a high school dropout. I fell in love with him knowing this. Idc!

I have my bachelors in business and marketing. When I graduated my bf was so proud of me. No issues whatsoever. As the years went by, every time we had an argument he’d mention my degree. He would always say “look at you with a college degree barely making enough money to survive.” It got to the point where I was so fed up with that comment I said “at least I have education and was taught not to humiliate others. The college experience taught me more than you think.”

Then here comes October 2023, I was laid off. My bf was supportive throughout the 6 months I was unemployed. Then in April 2024, I got a great job! Amazing pay and amazing benefits. I can make up my own schedule and work from home. Obviously I shared the news to my bf and he was happy! Then here comes a random fight and he tells me “you’re still en employee at the end of the day. You think you’re badass but whatever you make in a week I can make it in a day”

So him being proud was all fake then?? I stopped mentioning my job to him and recently I got promoted.

We had an argument today and he told me “you’ve changed so much since I met you. You’re not humble and actually you act ghetto. Is this how you talk at work? You think you’re on top because you have a college degree huh”

Like what??? I told him I am humble unlike him posting on social media the money he makes. I told him I was promoted to a director last week and didn’t even tell him because I knew he was going to tell me to act humble. It seems as if I can’t share my accomplishments because he takes it as in Im showing off.

After insulting me he sends me this text about money. I didn’t answer because what is he trying to prove? Then he told me he had bought me a gift but because of my attitude he gave it away to a homeless man. He said he bought me my favorite chocolate and a nice flower bouquet. I told him “so why do you tell me? Am I supposed to be sad?”

I told him he’s not winning by making me feel bad over chocolate. Then he takes it offensively and says “so are you a gold digger now? What do you want? A gucci bag? Are you the type of woman that gives ass to men for a designer bag”

Woah!!!! wtf is going on….i proceed to tell him “I don’t need a man to give me a designer brand. I’m fortunate enough to buy it myself.”

Again he tells me I need to humble myself and proceeds to say he still has my gifts. He tried calling like 10x. Told him I was shopping and to please leave me alone. He really hurt my feelings

And here he goes angry saying “so you think you’re high end because you can afford to go shopping? How about you start a business like I did?”

He mentions the day I was making a big deal about my insurance going up $50. I wasn’t making a big deal btw. He said if I was “balling” the $50 increase would not cause me to make a big deal. Again wtf is he talking about.