Trying not to be shallow ?

So im seeing this guy hes perfect so far we finally had sex and its really small like im not talking girl math small im talking 4 inches size of my middle finger . i just got outta a 5 year relationship with a older man who once hit 40 started getting ed so for 5 years ive dealt with only 60 secs of sex, 2 mins if im lucky and that is rare im 27 i feel like i should be having enjoyable sex i dont like to get head so i cant even use that... he was a very sweet man and the same age as me but i just dont know if i can go through not having the sex life i want... at least with the older man i could enjoy it at least but he wants to be single and says that sex isnt a really a big deal for him anymore ... so it cant work with us either I dont know what to do or if im being shallow but damn idk if ill be happy for long term but i love everything else so far