What do those of you without a village do?

Question

My parents were there for me when I had my daughter. Spent a lot of time with her, and took her for overnights. Then my brother had his own baby and they babysit him while he goes to work.. which is great, I love that he has that. It's just now my parents don't want much to do my daughter. By the weekend they are burnt out. They now see my daughter once a week for an hour or two if we're lucky, but thats with us there as well. They said they don't want to babysit any kids on the weekend, or do many overnights, which I totally understand. But I feel sad for my daughter, I spent so much time with my grandparents. Her grandparents on his dad's side are sadly no longer with us so she never has anyone that shows up for her. My husband and I don't get to go out anymore unless we want to pay for a sitter.. I know paying for a babysitter is totally normal and many people do that but it just makes me sad that she could be building her relationship with grandparents that live close by. 
Anyways, I know I'm not entitled to my parents time, and they have already raised their children. So I just have to suck it up and be accepting of what they are willing to give. That being said, how do you all deal with having no village? How do you do date nights?

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we mainly just do at home date nights after kids are in bed. we don’t have many people at all who babysit. we do usually ask my mom once in a few months or so. not very common do we go out though. we have no village on my husbands side. a lot of my family works so they aren’t able to watch them during the day and we don’t do any overnights with anyone

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I have a 2 yr old, and we live far from our village/don’t have anyone that could help in that manner for multiple reasons. Sometimes I do get bummed about it, which I think is normal. We just do date nights with our son like going out to eat. Then when he goes down to bed, we make a movie date night out of it and I really enjoy it. We basically take opportunities here and there to just spend it together. 
When my MIL is around every few months, we do have the chance of going out by ourselves and sometimes do. We just make the most of what we have.

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Once a week for an hour or 2 sounds a lot to me but my husband and I don’t get date nights. Our children are with us 24/7 unless the school aged ones are at school.

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You said they still see your daughter for an hour or two a week. That’s still being present for her. You got spoiled early on. I live on the other side of the country from any family. My parents come to town for maybe a week out of the year, and we go there maybe a week or two out of the year. Our kids (3 years old and 8 months old) go everywhere with us. We take a date night maybe twice a year, cuz we don’t want to pay for a sitter. From the sounds of it, they’re doing something similar for your brother that they did for you early on.

What do those of you without a village do?

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