I've decided not to have a baby shower as the whole idea of receiving gifts makes me REALLY uncomfortable, but my bfs family is going to be gutted when I tell them. They're really excited about organising anything to do with baby (it's the first grand baby). My bf supports what ever I decide. Am I being selfish? I'd rather people visit after baby is born, when I can spend time talking to them rather than having them all there on one day? Most my closest friends would be traveling 4+ hrs to get here... Hmm. So hard to keep everyone happy.