Help please 😪

Hi ladies ! sorry I don't really know where to put this but As someone that has yet to have a boyfriend I don't understand the process , I don't know if it's just something that happenes or not..I have a thing with a guy right now and  I like him but it's just not that interesting or exciting and I feel like it should be..when we talk or text it's always the same thing or low key..and I don't know if that's just because we are both nervous or if it's because nothing is there..I want a love or relationship that's exciting and spontaneous or just something that makes me excited to get up in the morning
 So I'm just wondering how long it took you girls that have boyfriends to realize that there is something there or not? I don't really want to give up but I also don't know how far to let it go I'm if not really that into it ? We've been talking for 4 months now and gone on a few dates but even on dates he just goes for the hug and no kiss so I don't really get it