In laws..

Melanie • Mother of 2 💚💙 🎀💜👣

Never thought I'd be writing one if these but here I am....

My brother in law is very opinionated and loves to debate. His wife(I get along with super well!) is one to have a strong belief in breastfeeding. She had posted a article on Facebook about formula and he gets on the comments and says stuff like breastfeeding is the only right way, mothers who choose to formula feed are neglegent because its basically the same as letting your child eat processed food when organic is an option and choosing the one over the better option is just awful. Well after all the very hurtful opinionated things that were said I pointed out that my son was formula fed due to my inability to produce what he needed even after trying and trying. It wasn't my choice but it was better than crying feeling like I was failing my child when he wasn't even a few months old! It made me so depressed to feel like I failed when I decided he was going to be on formula and even his doctor said he should switch. What else was I supposed to do when your child is extra fussy and getting pissed off that he isn't getting anything that he truly needs even after trying and trying to get what he needs.. He tells me before turning to formula I should have tried breast milk donation... He was telling me that breast milk is healthiest and formula fed children aren't as healthy(keep in mind my son has only been sick maybe 2 times) Basically telling me I failed and didn't do everything I could for him and that what I chose was wrong and not in his best interest. I'm 36 weeks and 5 days pregnant and constantly live with the concern that it will happen again and I will have no choice but to formula feed again... And this whole situation just really made me feel like shit. I feel offended and hurt and I've cried and I just don't get why anyone would think its OK to put down a mothers decision to formula feed when it obviously wasn't her first choice. My fiancé is at work and doesn't know about this yet but I'm going to bring it up when he gets home. I just needed to vent because I've just been sitting here crying about it.